Creating Healthy Marriages Part 2
Posted On 2013-03-14 10:17:04
As follow up to my previous post I wanted to add an additional thought which may be helpful. Most of up who have experienced relationships know that there are times when we feel our partner is pushing our buttons. Frequently I hear my clients tell me that their spouse is really "making them angry" or they "do not understand me".
One of the tools for creating a healthy relationship is to remember that other people do not create our emotions, we do. That runs contrary to what most of us learn throughout life. However, if you think carefully about it, you will see that your emotions are a response to the "meaning " you are giving to whatever is happening. Change the meaning and the emotions will change with this shift. A healthy and more powerful approach to our emotions is to ask ourselves "How am I creating this feeling or what is it about in me?"
The truth is we have no control over others but we have complete control over our own thoughts and feelings, if we learn the tools of self reflection. These are some of the things we work on in psychotherapy. Becoming more mindful and honest with ourselves and others regarding our emotions strengthens our feelings of self control This also improves our communication and results in giving up any belief in being the victim in our relationships.
For more information feel free to visit us on the web @ www.professionalcounselingpiedmontva.com or call us for a consultation @ 540-825-2788
One of the tools for creating a healthy relationship is to remember that other people do not create our emotions, we do. That runs contrary to what most of us learn throughout life. However, if you think carefully about it, you will see that your emotions are a response to the "meaning " you are giving to whatever is happening. Change the meaning and the emotions will change with this shift. A healthy and more powerful approach to our emotions is to ask ourselves "How am I creating this feeling or what is it about in me?"
The truth is we have no control over others but we have complete control over our own thoughts and feelings, if we learn the tools of self reflection. These are some of the things we work on in psychotherapy. Becoming more mindful and honest with ourselves and others regarding our emotions strengthens our feelings of self control This also improves our communication and results in giving up any belief in being the victim in our relationships.
For more information feel free to visit us on the web @ www.professionalcounselingpiedmontva.com or call us for a consultation @ 540-825-2788
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